Emily and I were talking about the trip to Europe that we are saving for and planning to take in 5 or 6 years. This lead to a discussion of things we want to do in our lifetimes. (That is the premise of a recent movie called Bucket List.)
Emily has accomplished many of the things that she has aspired to do. I think number one was to be a mommy. Number two, I hope, was to have a husband. (Lucky me on both counts.) In the 10 years I have known her, she has accomplished many other things that were on her list of things to do. These included getting into the tryouts for a network TV game show and free falling out of an airplane. She has three engineering degrees to her credit, as well.
There’s lots of travel still on her list. Europe is only one of the places she hopes to visit. She has said she would like to visit someplace fun and exciting every few years for the rest of her life.
I had my list, too, but I think I have mostly moved past it. At one point I joined the Air Force. I road-raced motorcycles. I flew a hang glider. I’ve gone on week-long off-road motorcycle treks in places like Baja California. I managed to earn two engineering degrees.
At this point, however, the only thing I think I really want to do, is make sure Emily and Danny have the things they need. These things include the basics, like food and and a roof over their head, but I also want to provide love, companionship, encouragement, and a life without worries.
I want to help Danny be inquisitive. I want him to know that learning is fun. I want to show him that he can solve almost any problem by slowing down, being methodical, and working hard. He can also ask for help. I want to show him that helping and caring for other people is rewarding. I want him to know that giving is part of who we are.
I want to show him how to play games and be a good sport. I want him to have fun. I want to show him how to respect others as well as himself. I want him to know and be comfortable in the great outdoors. I want to show him how to take care of himself.
I want him to know the value of a dollar and how to save before spending. I want to show him how to be frugal so he won’t suffer material wants. I want to provide boundaries. I want him to know that he is always loved, that I will always be there for him, and that home is a safe place.
I want to give Emily the love and respect that she gives to me, and more. I want her to know she is the most important person to me. I want to provide her with a house with no mortgage and a comfortable retirement. I want to make sure she can continue to live her dreams. I want her to have fun and I want to travel with her. I want her never to be burdened with debt. I want her to feel safe and I want her to know she is in my heart every day.
That is what I want to do in my lifetime.